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The last party

Jo and I went to the last party at Club Pyrite last night. In my previous post are the pictures of the play area.

It was sad. Almost all the art was off the walls and on tables in the ballroom. I had purchased two about a month ago and I bought two more which matched the ones I already had.

Jo and I socialized with numerous friends, avoided some people that had a lot of interest in us but were of no interest to us, ate dinner, danced, and finally went to the play area together. The play area was nearly completely full when we got there and was packed with people “in orbit” around the loop when we left. We didn’t see anyone playing with someone that

Probably the most interesting thing for me was a woman that I found talking to Jo after I returned from a trip to the bathroom. I didn’t recognize her but she was telling Jo what a nice person I was and how much she appreciated something I had done for her. At first I thought maybe it was someone I had sex with and didn’t remember. But I was almost certain that wasn’t the case. Jo reported that this women knew Jo by name and Jo didn’t recognize her either. There have been times it takes me a while to recognize someone after it has been a few years and perhaps the only time I saw them was in a darkened room without clothes on. But I convinced myself this wasn’t the case in this instance.

We talked for a while and hit it off fairly well. She likes to have a connection to her playmates and is on the polyamorous end of the scale of people in the lifestyle. She left when she had to “go fold towels” which I think means she was doing volunteer work last night. As she left she said something cryptic and I didn’t figure it out until later. She said, “Thanks for closing the curtains.” I think “the thing I had done for her” was that sometime in the eight years she had been a member there I had closed some curtains to a play space she was using when she was having trouble closing them. That’s in character for me even though I don’t specifically remember that instance.

Late last night Jo captured why we haven’t been happy at this club for quite a while (paraphrasing some):

This is now more a social club than a sex club. Most of the swingers have left .

It’s the end of what I have been told was the longest continuously running sex club in the United States and perhaps the world. I was a small part of it from before it’s doors opened until the last party.

Party house pictures

Last night was the last party ever at Club Pyrite. I first visited here over 35 years ago. The first woman I ever had sex with other than my wife was here. And the first man she had sex with, other than me, was also here. I could not begin to tell you how many people I have seen have sex here.  I cannot tell you how many times I have been to this club but probably on the order of 500 times.

I got permission to come in early before the party and take pictures of the play area. Click on the pictures for a larger version.

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These are the indoor and outdoor hot tubs.

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This is the entrance to the locker room, bathrooms, and showers. I didn’t take pictures in there as there were people there at the time.

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This is the stairway to the upstairs play area. Some people have called it, “The stairway to heaven.”

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This is the bed at the top of the stairs for the “Bed Monitors” to make sure people entering the play area obey the rules.

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This is the interior of the room you see on the right in the previous picture.

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This is to the right of the bed for the bed monitors.

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This is a group area to the immediate right as you come up the stairs.

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Looking down the hall between the bunk beds and the group area you see the “Frog Chair”.

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A closer view of the Frog Chair.

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Around the corner to the right from the Frog Chair we enter the Red Room.

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Opposite the bed in the previous picture are these two sets of beds. Both the upper and lower area are composed of two king sized mattresses. The upper area is what Jo and I call The Perch.

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This is what The Perch looks like.

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This set of pictures is part of the view from The Perch as you scan from left to right. You can also see the first bed coming into the Red Room and if you try a little bit you can see the Frog Chair as well.

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This is the rest of the Red Room as you continue on to the right from The Perch.

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This is looking back into the Red Room from the opposite end of the room.

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I forget this room is officially called, maybe “The Glow Room”. Jo and I just call it the Black Light room. It is illuminated with black light and paintings, posters (gone in the picture), towels, sheets, etc. created some interesting effects here. It is just round the corner from the Red Room as you can see in the last picture.

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This is the Mirror Room. The ceiling is covered with mirrors. This is the room where Jo had her first lifestyle sex with someone other than me.

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To the left of this bed you can see into the Mirror Room. Beyond the bed you can see the Bed Monitor bed. To the right you can see the railing for the stairway. We have come back to the beginning. This is “The Loop” I sometimes mention.

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On the left you see the stairs going up to the upper play area. In the picture on the right you see a play and socialization area. To the extreme right is the entrance to another play area.

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This set of pictures is primary downstairs play area. On the right you see the back of a couch and smaller play area.

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On the far left of the upper picture you see part of the primary play area from the previous set of pictures. Then the couch and video screen (X-rated videos shown here during parties). In the last picture you see another frog chair which is to the far left of the video screen.

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On the left, with the video viewing area in the background and the stairs on the left you see the public massage table at the base of the stairs. On the right is another view of the table.

Although Jo and I hadn’t played with any couples, despite trying many times, in over a year I’m going to miss the club. There are so many memories and the club changed my life. It was a such a huge part of my life.

Group dynamics

Last night we went to Club Topaz. We spent a lot of time wandering around and chatting briefly with various people of little interest or people we had played with before, such as Trevor & Kathleen from just the night before who seem to be on the prowl for someone new. Kane was very interested in Jo and they spent a lot of time talking and kissing but Jo didn’t really want to play with him.

I was standing at a table alone while Jo went to get a snack and Ivy came up to talk to me. We knew her from Club Pyrite but we hadn’t really talked much there. I remember her being a very enthusiastic kisser in a game of spin the bottle but that and a few very short exchanges of pleasantries were about all the interactions we had had before. She is nice looking but quite a bit younger than me. And since she doesn’t usually have a partner at the parties I didn’t see much future in pursuing her. But she was expressing interest in me and Jo was spending a lot of time with Kane so maybe it was time to get to know her better.

We talked a long time. We talked about how she got into the lifestyle just a couple years ago, our ex-spouses, and what we liked to do at parties. Except for the age difference, which she didn’t seem to be concerned about, we are a pretty good match. We danced together, kissed, and fondled. All the while Jo was doing pretty much the same thing with Kane. I needed to use the bathroom and wanted to talk with Jo before suggested to Ivy that we go into the play area.

When I got back from the bathroom neither Jo nor Ivy were in sight and as looked around I found Jo first. I went to talk to her and she was in a group with Trevor & Kathleen, Jack & Danielle, and two other couples that we had some interest in that night but hadn’t talk to at all. It turned out the group was getting ready to go into the play area together and Jo and I were invited. Okay. It was sort of a surprise to us, but we definitely like two of the couple and had an interest in the other two, so we decided to join them.

I saw Ivy off in the distance as Jo and I disappeared into the play area. But I didn’t have time to explain to her that I was disappearing even though I was very interested in her and appreciated all the time she had invested in getting to know me.

We found a play area big enough for all five couples and Jo and I weren’t quite sure what the plan was from there. Everyone took off their clothes and Jo and I went off to one side with each other. Kathleen saw this and started directing. She put Jack with Jo, and me on the other side of Kathleen from Jo. One of the guys and one of the women I didn’t know was with Kathleen. I joined in with the touching of Kathleen’s breasts as the other woman performed oral sex and used a vibrator on her and the guy kissed Kathleen’s breasts as well. I gradually gave more and more attention to the other woman but she was concentrating on Kathleen and wasn’t giving me much back in return. I wasn’t really sure she wanted my attention and started giving attention to the other woman I didn’t know who was with her husband. She reciprocated for a while but as things got more and more intimate she excused herself and she and her husband left the room for a while.

The woman with Kathleen was finishing up and her husband was getting ready to have sex with Kathleen. By this time Jack and Jo were having sex and it provided a stimulating background to seeing Kathleen having sex with the other guy. And over near the door I saw Ivy with the young guy who told us “it only takes one couple or even one person to make the difference“ a couple weeks ago.

The woman moved to me and we took turns performing oral sex on each other then I put on a condom and had sex with her. The other couple returned to the room next to us and had sex on the bed next to us. After Jo and Jack finished up Jo visited Mick & Michelle who were close by and kissed with them for a while as I finished up with my partner.

As I lay down beside my partner she smiled, told me her name and laughed. Her name was Madeline. She, as did I, thought it was funny to be exchanging names after you had sex with someone. But that is the way it is sometimes in groups. Not everyone knows everyone else but the group dynamic is that you end up with someone you haven’t been introduced to yet. I prefer to have a emotional connection with someone but sometimes you can have a great time when you don’t make the connection first.

After a while Madeline excused herself and Jo moved from being with Mick & Michelle to being with me. We had sex with each other, cuddled for a while, and went home.

The next day I sent a message to Ivy and explained what happened. That I was interested in her but on the spur of the moment Jo and I got invited with the group. She said she understood that you have to go with the flow. And told me she had a good time at the party. The guy had asked her if she wanted him to give her oral sex and so they went into the play area for that and after many minutes of oral sex they had intercourse together which she enjoyed.

I was okay with the way things went but Jo wasn’t all that happy. She didn’t like being treated as “an interchangeable female”. She had a nice time with Jack but the group dynamic sort of turned her off. We have some busy weekends ahead of us and probably will be taking a short break from the sex club scene.

Small house/birthday party

Last night Jo and I went to an interesting house party. Interesting in that it wasn’t really what I think of a sex party. It was more of a party where it was okay to have sex. The house was a little small to have much of a party. There was one bedroom that was okay and another bedroom that was small and had a lot of stuff in it that took up most of the room. The living room, dining room, and kitchen were the socialization area and wasn’t really conducive to being a play area.

We just barely knew about half of the people there and so we, with the permission of the hosts, invited two other couples we knew. Trevor & Kathleen and Jack & Danielle. Jack and & Danielle weren’t able to attend but Trevor and Kathleen made it.

We socialized with everyone for a couple hours. It was a birthday party and the “birthday boy” was put in a chair and many of the women came up to him, kissed him, and touched him in various ways. His girlfriend who arranged the surprise party is experienced in the lifestyle but it appeared to me he wasn’t entirely comfortable with this sort of behavior.

After the birthday boy chair stuff Jo and Trevor started doing a lot of kissing. The Kathleen and I kind of drifted off to the edge of the group, did some touching and kissing, and then signaled to Jo and Trevor we were going to the bedroom. Jo and Trevor joined us. It was very hot and even with the window open it was uncomfortable. The bed was too narrow for all four of us and it just wasn’t the best environment.

Jo and Trevor seemed to have a pretty good time but things just weren’t working for me. After Jo and Trevor were finished I played with Jo then collapsed in a puddle of sweat. We cuddled for a while, put on our clothes, said good-bye to everyone, and left about midnight.

It was nice enough but we probably wouldn’t go back until after they complete the remodeling they plan to do to make it into a place almost specifically intended for sex parties.