Club successes

As I have mentioned before Jo and I have frequently been disappointed when going to clubs. However there have been some fairly recent success stories which I haven’t reported here.

In June a couple we met via Adult Friend Finder, met at a restaurant for conversation, then a week or two later met at Club Topaz to play together. It was a convenient meeting place for play about an hour from their home and 20 minutes from ours. We barely interacted with anyone else.

In July we went to Club Topaz and the club in line to check in ahead of us was someone from out of state we had met via Swing Lifestyle on a “Hot Date” almost a year before. We had invited them home to play with us and we had a good time. This was their first visit back to the area and we just happened to bump into them at the club. We again played with them.

Tomorrow we are going to an out of state club and expect things will turn out well also. We were invited by a couple we met at a meet and greet to a party. We expected it was a house party but then found out everyone invited, several couples, were meeting at a local lifestyle club.

We’ll see, but the point is that clubs still do have a place in our lifestyle adventures.


Jo and I have a busy life. Work, kids, hobbies, vanilla friends, vanilla vacations, and finally the lifestyle. When we make plans to meet with another couple (or occasionally a single woman) we consider it a rare treat. It’s very disappointing when someone has to cancel at the last minute but we have done it when one of us became sick, or a family emergency happened. Fine, we get that. What goes beyond disappointment into irritation is when people just “go dark”.

Twice in the past week we had people agree to meet and as the final plans were being agreed upon (location with a new couple and time with a single woman) they just stopped answering messages. How can they think this is appropriate behavior?

We cannot accept this as appropriate. We write them off as flakes.

That was refreshing

Recently Jo and I have been consistently disappointed when we went to club parties and most meet and greets. The people didn’t match our physical criteria and weren’t a good the personality/social-economic match for us either.

But about a month ago we met a couple at a meet and greet which lives about a mile from us, both are tall and in good shape, and it seemed to be a good match. We exchanged contact information and with the expectation they would get in touch with us for a “vanilla” party at their home the following day with some of their family and friends. That didn’t happen and we gave them a pass on it. It was a little early in the relationship to know if we could be trusted to keep our hands off of people and not bring up lifestyle things in front of people they didn’t want knowing.

But nothing further came from them and so we reached out to them last week to see if they would like to have dinner with us at a local restaurant. They agreed and we had dinner with them last night. It went really well. We talked and talked about a number of things both about the lifestyle and non-lifestyle. We got along great and they invited us to another vanilla event at their home and verified we are all going to the same exclusive sex club party a couple weeks from now.

I’m really looking forward to it.

Meeting and hike

In part due to our frustration at not finding many good matches at the parties we have been going to Jo contacted a couple via that lives over two hours away. It’s too far for a close relationship of the type we would like but other than the distance their profile was a really good match for us.

One of the things we had in common with them was an interest in the outdoors so the four of us decided to meet about half way in between and go for a hike. It was a fairly short hike but we found a secluded beach and sat down on a log in the shade and talked for a long time. It was extremely pleasant talking to them. We learned they were retired in their mid-fifties after having productive technical jobs. They have been married for over 30 years and seemed very happy together. Some people seem to “have their guard up” all the time and maybe are hiding something from you. Kipp and Katherine were really easy to talk to and we had so much in common. It was a delight being with them.

We walked back to our cars and then went to a local restaurant for a very late lunch. We talked and talked. Finally we had to go because of the somewhat long drive home. We had somewhat passionate goodbye kisses and agreed we should get together again soon.

Club hopping

A couple weeks ago we met a couple via and enjoyed talking with them over drinks. But he was a former politician of considerable note (at the state level) and the politician in him was a little bit irritating after a while. The wife was nice and there wasn’t anything that was a definite deal breaker. We agreed to meet again sometime and as we parted Jo did her standard “good lover” test of kissing him. He failed. After we got home we looked up more information via the web on the politician. He was several years older than what they had said on their SLS profile. Another strike against them. But what do you expect from a politician? It’s like they say, “Q: How do you know if a politician is lying? A: His lips are moving.”

They wanted to get together again and we agreed to see them but not one-on-one. We suggested a Meet and Greet where we could meet others and give our SLS acquaintances a polite brush off if they continued to fail our tests.

I wasn’t all that interested in going to the Meet and Greet. When the band started playing it was too loud to talk to people and there just didn’t seem to be any good matches except for people we already knew. But Calvin and Jerri reported they had met something like five really nice looking couples the last time they went. So we decided to go then if things didn’t look very promising we would bail early and go to Club Topaz.

We arrived just as the M&G was supposed to start. On previous visits arriving 15 minutes after it started resulted in not being able to find a table or chair. This time we were the first ones there. We had a nice time talking with the organizers and we had seats which allowed us to see everyone as they came in. After an hour or so there were probably 25 or 30 couples and no one of interest to us. We were about to leave when the former politician and his wife showed up. We stayed for a while to talk to them and she was really stoned. She was almost zombie like with an almost shuffling walk, turning her entire body instead of just her head, and slow speech. He wasn’t stoned that we could tell but the politician was just as evident and we decided we weren’t interested in anyone there. We told them we were leaving to go to Club Topaz and they said they would go too. Okay, whatever.

As we were getting into our car Calvin and Jerri drove up and stopped right in front of us. Jerri gave us this exaggerated shocked and questioning look and mouthed, “What?” We went over to greet and kiss them. We told them we didn’t see anyone of interest there and were going to Club Topaz. They said they wouldn’t be going because it was further away from home for them (it was closer to home for us) and they were in Amsterdam that morning and weren’t going to be out very late this night. They had visited a sex club there and were quite impressed with it. After a few minutes of chatting we parted and continued on to Club Topaz.

The politician and stoned wife were already there. He showed increasing interest in Jo until she finally told him they weren’t a good match for us. I chatted with Kenny and Darcy for quite a while. And then saw a tall very good looking woman in a white dress with nothing underneath that had just as much are with holes as it did fabric. She and the dress were quite stunning. I just sort of starred and drooled for a long time.

Jo had surveyed the landscape and other than sitting on the lap of the club owner and kissing for a while didn’t see anyone of interest there. So she walked up to the tall woman in the white dress and did a “height check”. The woman was wearing about four inch heels and was close to two inches taller than Jo who was wearing flats. We chatted with her for quite a while. Her name was Karla. She told us she and her husband had just got back from Hedonism II. She, as well as everyone else we know who has been there, thought it was a wonderful place and how after a few days they would just wander around separately and have sex with people they were attracted to. She pointed out her husband, Kent, at a nearby table and as she finished getting her drink at the bar told us we should talk to him too.

When I saw an empty chair at the table I sat down and chatted with him for a while. They are planning to go to Club Diamond next week and the hotel takeover by Club Topaz in a couple months. We already had the same plans so that seemed like we had some similar interests. He seemed to be a nice guy too but I’m not sure he is tall enough to be interesting to Jo. They also both have a few tattoos which loses them a few points in my book. I gave him our card anyway and told him we would look forward to seeing them again. It was just too loud to chat for very long and really get to know them. Jo sat at the table with us for a few minutes and couldn’t hear a word that we said.

Jo and I ended up going into one of the play rooms together. The room was nearly full and we got to watch probably another half dozen couples have sex at the same time as we were playing. The politician and his stoned wife poked their heads in the room and watched longingly at Jo and I for a while before leaving.

After we were done we went home to get some sleep. We had big day ahead us…


Monday evening Jo and I met Paul and June for drinks. They are the couple we met at club and sat in the hot tub at Club Pyrite last Wednesday. They live fairly close to us and we were interested in them, but didn’t play with them last week for a variety of reasons.

We enjoyed our time with them. They are very new to lifestyle and had a fair number of questions. They were articulate and smart. June was a bit overwhelmed by her experience at the club and while we didn’t get the full story we could tell she is a bit less enthusiastic about everything than Paul is.

We didn’t make any future plans but if the opportunity to play with them comes up in the future the odds of us agreeing to do so is significantly higher now.

Meet and greet

Last night Jo and I went to another meet and greet.

A few days before we sent messages on to the people on the RSVP list who we thought might be interesting. We told them were were interested and requested face pictures so we could recognize them. They all complied.

At the actual event the more interesting details were the following:

  • The couple we were most interested in didn’t seem very interested in us.
  • One couple we immediately knew were of no interest to us chatted to us long after Jo disengaged and was talking to someone else and I had said things I like, “It was nice talking to you, thanks for stopping by our table.”
  • One couple who contacted us before the event and then the day before confirmed they would see us never made contact even though we were plain sight just inside the entrance.
  • We spent almost all of our time with people we knew from before the event.

We talked, danced, kissed, and fondled our friends Jack and Danielle, Calvin and Jerri, and Jeff and Mindy. We met a new couple which hung out with us for quite a while and Jack and Calvin both spent a lot of time kissing and fondling the female half. I talked to her and thought she was nice but I didn’t care for the male half and Jo felt the same.

Probably the most interesting part of the evening was that Jo announced she was going to go kiss Jeff to see if he showed potential as a sex partner. She spent quite a bit of time doing that and came back to our table to report he, “Definitely passed.”

Later Mindy told me that Jeff would be calling me to set up a play date between the four of us.

It wasn’t quite as productive as the previous meet and greet at the same location but it was worthwhile attending.

Home meeting for drinks

Last night Jo and I met another couple at their place for drinks. I had met them with my ex at our usual club years ago and then Jo and I chatted with them for a while at the house party we went to a couple months ago. Jo had some symptoms from a cold or allergy or else we would have gone to a club party. As it is she didn’t want to be kissing anyone and potentially getting them sick as well as when she lays down she gets a lot of sinus pressure.

So we went to Jeff and Mindy’s place and got to know them a lot better. We really got along well with them. They have been in the lifestyle for many years and are quite enthusiastic about it. Mindy, in particular, is extremely outgoing and fun to listen to.

We stayed for about two and half hours and then left shortly after some other lifestyle friends of theirs showed up for “a date” which almost for certain meant play time. We were invited to stay but it was time to get Jo back home for more rest.

As we were driving home we chatted about Jeff and Mindy. Jo really enjoyed their company but Jeff isn’t physically a good match for her. Mindy is okay, but not great for me. I’d definitely be interested in having sex with her but she isn’t someone that I going to lust after for weeks until I get my chance. Another thing that adds some hesitancy is that they like to play in separate rooms while Jo and I prefer the same room.

Time will tell how this relationship turns out.

I’ll probably see Mindy again in the not to distance future as she wanted some instruction in a field for which I am a certified instructor. No sex, she would be treated just like any of my other students.

Meet, greet, and complete

Last night Jo and I went to a “meet and greet” at a casino/bar/dance place. There were probably something 100++ people there. We met a few new people but didn’t talk to them all that much. We gravitated to people we already knew and spent most of our time talking to them.

We spent quite a bit of time talking to Cam and Rebecca (and Jo did a fair amount of kissing with Cam) but it was Alfred and Debbie that invited us back to their place only a couple miles away. Debbie rode with me and Jo rode with Alfred so we wouldn’t get lost.

We were given a quick tour of their home which ended up with Debbie and I in one bedroom and Jo and Alfred in another. Jo and I would have liked to have been in the same room but it turned out fine.

Debbie and I could hear Jo really enjoying herself and I used my hands, fingers, and mouth to give Debbie her share of orgasms as well. Jo and Alfred came in and got on the bed with us after a while. I climbed on top of Jo and had sex with her for a while and then pulled out, put on a condom, and then finished up with Debbie.

It was really late by then and after talking and cuddling for only for a short while Jo and I put on our clothes and left.

Jo slept a lot of the way home but she reported she had a really good time and would “definitely do that again”.

It was so late when we got home that we didn’t have sex with each other again. We just went to sleep but had sex the this morning and again later.

Meeting for drinks

Last March Jo and I had a great time at a house party. One of the couples we talked, to but didn’t play with, was Jack and Danielle. They were the couple that had been married for 40 years and in the lifestyle since the mid-1990’s. A while after the party they contacted us via a swinger website we belong to and wanted to get together for “drinks” sometime. Our schedules finally meshed and we met them at a restaurant last night.

We talked for nearly three hours. It was really pleasant. We talked about our kids, our homes, and about how we got into the lifestyle, different clubs we had been to, house parties, and all kinds of things.

What Jo and I independently decided was that one of the main motivations for them contacting us was that they have their own house parties and they were evaluating whether we would fit in with their other friends. I’m pretty sure we passed.

They had seen on the website where we had RSVP’d to attend the same house party this weekend and they were going too. They said they were looking forward to seeing us there. And also while Danielle and I excused ourselves to visit in the restrooms (separately no playing around or anything) before driving home Jack asked Jo if there was any chance of them getting to play with us. Jo told him that it probably could happen. She wasn’t entirely sure how I felt about Danielle so she didn’t make any strong assurances. I found her attractive, smart, and interesting to talk to and I was fine with them as a couple so I expect we will sometime get together with them.

Today we got another message from them via the swinger website saying they really enjoyed talking to us too and they hope to see us this weekend, if not then they want to get together sometime soon.

We are looking forward to it.