Home meeting for drinks

Last night Jo and I met another couple at their place for drinks. I had met them with my ex at our usual club years ago and then Jo and I chatted with them for a while at the house party we went to a couple months ago. Jo had some symptoms from a cold or allergy or else we would have gone to a club party. As it is she didn’t want to be kissing anyone and potentially getting them sick as well as when she lays down she gets a lot of sinus pressure.

So we went to Jeff and Mindy’s place and got to know them a lot better. We really got along well with them. They have been in the lifestyle for many years and are quite enthusiastic about it. Mindy, in particular, is extremely outgoing and fun to listen to.

We stayed for about two and half hours and then left shortly after some other lifestyle friends of theirs showed up for “a date” which almost for certain meant play time. We were invited to stay but it was time to get Jo back home for more rest.

As we were driving home we chatted about Jeff and Mindy. Jo really enjoyed their company but Jeff isn’t physically a good match for her. Mindy is okay, but not great for me. I’d definitely be interested in having sex with her but she isn’t someone that I going to lust after for weeks until I get my chance. Another thing that adds some hesitancy is that they like to play in separate rooms while Jo and I prefer the same room.

Time will tell how this relationship turns out.

I’ll probably see Mindy again in the not to distance future as she wanted some instruction in a field for which I am a certified instructor. No sex, she would be treated just like any of my other students.

Catch up

I haven’t posted anything about our club visits for two months now. That doesn’t mean we haven’t been going. It just means I didn’t find the time to write up the posts.

Here is a quick recap of some of the parties we have been to since the last post about a party we went to.

October 24th we attended a Halloween party at a hotel. This is the same club that said they would have their own facility ready for parties by August of this year. We ended up playing separately. I was with Kathleen again in her room. Jo had a threesome (she says it was “the best ever!”) with Mick and Michelle. Although we had a great time we really like being in the same room together and probably won’t do the separate room thing again.

November 12th, November 15th, November 19th, December 3rd, and December 6th we went to our usual club and nothing of particular interest happened. We generally had a nice time and talked to a few people but didn’t have sex with anyone else. On November 25th they announced they are closing the club for good with a party the last weekend in June of 2015. The club has been a part of my life for decades and I’m sorry to see it go. But things just haven’t been working out for us there and a lot of other people as well. The dynamics of a club are subtle combination of the people, the layout, the sounds, the rules, and probably a 100 other things. This club had it right, or close enough, for thirty years or so. It’s sad to see it fade away.

December 13th we attending the first public party of a relatively new club in their own facility. What is extremely promising about this club is that the owner is the son of the guy that owns the club we usually go to. He manage our usual club for several years and knows the business. He and his father had a falling out and a lot of people left our usual club supporting the son in the dispute. I didn’t want to get involved in the politics and the father’s club schedule was a better fit for my situation and I had never attended the son’s club at the hotels until after Jo and I started looking for alternatives.

We had been to two of their hotel parties but we were really looking forward to seeing their own facility. It is a shorter drive than any of the other party locations. We didn’t see many people of interest but we did see Jack and Danielle and two other couples that we knew.

Donna and her husband were there and we had a surprising conversation with them. Donna wanted to share a secret with us and asked Jo to share a similar secret with her. She said she they had been in the lifestyle for about two years now and had only had sex with two different men other than her husband in that time. She wanted to know how many different men Jo had been with since she had been in the lifestyle. Jo has been in the lifestyle just a little over two years so it was a fair comparison. Jo told her “about 20” and I said that I thought it was closer to 25.  Donna was quite intrigued and her husband was ready to “drag Jo away to the bedroom”. We need to talk to them more sometime. Because this is the same woman who suggested Jo and she take off their clothes, walk around the house and arranged a multiple cock sucking situation for herself and Jo. What is going on here?

We ended up playing with Dick and Alexis. They are a very nice looking couple and very enthusiastic. We had seen and talked to them at the house party on October 19th and at the hotel Halloween party October 24th and probably would have ended up playing with them there had things gone just a little different.

Okay. I’m all caught up. I’m hoping I can avoid getting so far behind again. I really need to post within a day or two after the party. Even if its not a full detail report just saying we went and the basics of what happened would be so much better than not posting anything at all.

Jo and I are 1 percenters

Via Justin J Lehmiller we have this chart on the frequency of intercourse in married couples:


Jo and I are in our 50’s and sometimes have sex as often as four times in one day! Yet having sex four or more times in one week would put us in the top 1.1%.

We were shocked. Jo said, “What are these people doing?!” My response was, “I don’t know. But we know what they aren’t doing.”