Jo and I just got back from a weekend at a mountain lodge with a small group (about 20 people) of swingers. We didn’t have very high expectations because most of the people there were not a good match for us, but we hoped to make some connections.

We had some fun. We went for a moderately long hike (nearly six miles) and saw some beautiful scenery. We laughed a lot with Janice and talked and kissed with Tanya. I was interested in both Janice and Tanya but there wasn’t really anyone of interest to Jo. There was one couple (Sebastian & Ruby) that showed up late from over four hours away where the guy was a good match for Barb. But the woman is probably 30 years younger than me. I questioned whether she would have any interest in me anyway. They hooked up with Tanya and Ichabod.

Late on Saturday evening I did manage to get Sebastian and Ruby into a conversation and things seemed to go very well for while. We talked about swinging quite a bit and they were quite interested in one of my hobbies unrelated to sex. Jo thought “this is going to work” but there was a medical emergency event with someone in the hot tub and it “spoiled the buzz” for everyone.

As we were leaving the next morning Ruby was in the kitchen as I was searching for a quick breakfast. She was very friendly and I gave her my card with more information about how to get involved in the hobby they expressed interest in. She seemed enthusiastic about it. So maybe we’ll hear from them again sometime.

Tanya told us about a couple swinging podcasts she really likes:

• We Gotta Thing
• Swinging Downunder

I’ve downloaded the first few episodes and am going to start listening to them.

She also raved about how much they enjoy lifestyle cruises.  She and Ichabod have gone on three now. Jo and I are going on one in October of this year and I hope we don’t have our expectations too high after all the praise she has been giving them.

Club Topaz took over an entire hotel near the ocean this weekend. There were about 275 people there. Jo and I had never been to an event like this and were a little unsure how the dynamics of meeting people and playing with others would work out. Jo suggested we go “free range” and not try to find a couple which was a good match for both of us. I agreed but wasn’t entirely happy with her insisting that she would not play with anyone else unless I had found someone first.

We arrived on Friday afternoon, checked in and wandered around some. It was a little bit old but well maintained and clean. The staff seemed friendly but except for the club owners we didn’t see anyone that we knew really well or anyone we were particularly interested in playing with. We went for a walk on the beach and hung out near the lobby watching the new arrivals for potential good matches.

At dinner Kent and Karla showed up and sat at our table with us. I was still very interested in her and Jo was warming up to Kent some. Kent certainly expressed his interest in Jo.

After dinner Jo and I wandered around and “touched base” every 15 to 30 minutes. There was dancing in one conference room and general socialization going on in all the hallways. I sort of expected the pool and hot tub to be a place to meet people but there was virtually nothing going on there. I chatted with Karla some more and asked if she wanted to play with me and she indicated interest but was very tired from being up since something like 3:30 AM. I told her to let me know and she agreed. I continued to cruise and check in with Jo.

I danced with one woman who was with Alexis and another woman. She naked except for shoes. We touched, rubbed against each other, and kissed quite a bit and I expected she was ready to play with me. I asked she declined because she was “all played out” but we exchanged cards. It’s unlikely we will get together. They live many hours away and Jo didn’t get to meet her husband.

As the night got later and later we were getting tired and a little frustrated. Neither of us had very good prospects and this was a lot of work for us. We saw Donna and her husband and started talking with them. Donna is almost outrageously wild and it made things more fun just hanging out with them. Her husband was very  interested in Jo and told her many times. Jo was not interested in him but hanging out with them was worth the almost overwhelming attention from him.

We invited them to our room for a drink and once there at the urging of Donna’s husband Jo and Donna took off their clothes and started having sex with each other. Her husband and I took off our clothes and touched the woman and they played with each other. We had left the door open and another couple stopped and watched. We noticed them and invited them in. They introduced themselves, Jerry and Diane. Jerry started touching Donna and the woman began touching me and Jo and Donna continued 69ing. Then Diane started performing oral sex on me. I don’t think Donna really wanted the attention from the other guy and Jo definitely didn’t want the attention from Donna’s husband so Jo, Donna, and her husband left, all completely naked, to go back to the dancing in the conference room two floors down. Diane and I were pretty “involved” and Jerry stayed to watch as Diane and I had sex together.

After we were done we put our clothes back on and I checked in with Jo. It was after midnight and I was tired and ready to go to sleep. But Jo was pretty wound up from all the play with Donna and asked if she could continue looking for someone. I agreed and she left while I went to bed.

About 20 minutes later she came back. “Emergency sex!”, she exclaimed. She had found Jeff, flirted a bit with him and propositioned him, he agreed, then because he had been with three other women already that night was unable to anything more than get Jo exceptionally excited. She came back to me to get some relief, which I was more than happy to help her with.

Saturday we again went for a walk on the beach, and did mild socialization during the day and went “on the prowl” as it became evening. But during the day Kent kept pushing the issue with Jo more and more to the point where Jo lost what little bit of interest she had for him. I understood why. My only minor concern was that I was afraid this would spoil the deal for Karla and I.

There didn’t seem to be much in the way of prospects. People we were interested in seemed to already have other plans and those who were interested in us were not very a good match for us.

Late in the evening Karla showed up. Her necklace said, “Slut”, she was wearing a dress which showed far more skin than it concealed and left virtually nothing left to the imagination except for whether she was going to choose you as one of her playmates. I talked to her for a while and asked if she would like to play with me. She agreed but wanted check with Kent and hang out near the dance floor for a while first. I told her to let me know when she was ready. About 15 minutes later she came up to me and said she was ready.

We went to my room and got undressed and into bed. She had done something I had never known any other woman to do. She had her pubic hair permanently removed. It was incredibly smooth and soft.  We had a really nice time together, talked for a while, then she was ready to find “the next person on her dance card”.

I found Jo and checked in with her. She wasn’t having any luck but continued to dance with some of the women. I found the woman who I had danced with the previous evening staring out a door into the rain and chatted with her for quite a while. I really like her but they live so far away it is unlikely we will see each other unless we both go back to the same hotel take over next year.

Eventually Jo and I went to bed without her finding a suitable playmate. We had sex and went to sleep.

The event was okay but it was a lot of work for us to socialize. We decided that it would be a lot better if you went with someone you already knew. But then if you were going to do that why not just rent your own rooms at hotel and play there rather than paying about twice as much for the organized party?

We made reservations for the hotel takeover next spring with the same room as we had this year. But we aren’t certain we will actually go yet. Maybe it will be our backup plan if we don’t have some other friends to do something similar with.

Jo and I rented a condo next to the ocean for the weekend and two other couples went with us. These was Calvin and Jerri and Trevor and Kathleen.

I had told Jo that these type of events are my favorite. With my ex-wife I had many of these to various places like resorts at National Parks and even just an ordinary hotel in town with big beds. Jo was a little nervous about it. But I think it might have been because of issues of hosting friends when she was married to her ex. If things didn’t go just perfect he would get upset.

We went hiking on the beach with our friends and if anyone had been watching closely I’ll bet they would have been confused. We mixed up the pairings as we walked. We held hands with the spouses of other couples and sometimes the women were hugging and kissing. It was great fun and helped break the ice a little bit. Neither of the other two couples had met before so it was particularly important for them to get to know each other. Jo and I were pretty sure they were compatible and it turns out we were correct.

Calvin and Kathleen and Jerri and I used the Murphy bed in the living room together while Jo and Trevor used one of the bedrooms. I wanted to be in the other bedroom with Jerri but she said she and Calvin never play apart. The Murphy bed was a little small and it was crowded on the bed. I wasn’t able to get a full erection and although Jerri was really nice about it things just didn’t go as well as I would have liked.

My favorite part was the next morning. Jo got up and went to the kitchen to get some food. I stayed in bed for a while reading blogs on my phone. Pretty soon the door opened and Kathleen walked in were just her robe. She asked if it was alright if she joined me. Of course it was! We had a really nice time together.

After we were done and talked and cuddled for a while we took a shower together and went into the kitchen to help with breakfast. It turns out it was Trevor’s idea for Kathleen to come into my bedroom. He and Jo were getting very “heated up” in the kitchen while everyone else was still in bed. So he suggested Kathleen join me in my bedroom so he and Jo could have the Murphy bed in the living room.

Another wonderful weekend get away. It was one of Jo’s better lifestyle experiences as well as mine.

Jo was out of town the last few nights and about 4:30 AM yesterday morning sent me a text message:

I’ve been thinking about it since yesterday, but I feel fine with you having a hall pass tonight.

Maybe it is different being out of town?

I replied a few minutes later:

Being home or away is much different for some reason. I  didn’t get into bed until midnight. Very lonely without you here. Then woke  up a few minutes ago.

Thank you for the hall pass. I won’t make any commitment until 8:30 or later. You can change your mind at any time. Even if I actually go.

She replied:

That’s sort of what I do when you’re gone. Being the one who is away, for some reason I feel better about you having a hall pass than not having one. Weird.

That night, 7:58 PM:

Are you really okay with a hall pass tonight? It’s okay to change your mind.

At 8:02 she replied:

Yes! Fine with a hall pass. Have fun.

8:15 PM I replied:

Do you want updates as the evening progresses? Or silence?

8:18 from Jo:

Just end results when you get home is fine, and any interesting gossip of course!

I arrived Club Topaz about 9:00 PM. There weren’t a lot of people there (later I asked one of the owners and they said 36). I found a locker for my stuff, took a shower, and changed my clothes. I made a quick tour of the play areas. They were completely empty.

I grabbed a snack and walked to one end of the room where I had a good view of everyone. There were a couple of groups and some scattered people. I knew a couple of the owners and saw a few faces I recognized but no one I had played with before and very few single women. I was slowly eating my snack and one of the women from a group at a table near the opposite side of the room walked to me and asked, “Isn’t your wife really tall?” “Yes”, I replied. Rachael introduced herself and said she thought she recognized me.

She and her husband Don do volunteer work for the club, see us there frequently, then saw us at the last party at Club Diamond, but never got around to talking to us. She wanted to say hi and talk with us. She asked about Jo and I told her she was out of town and I had a hall pass tonight.

As we talked we saw a short, sort of chubby, guy with a Mohawk haircut go into the play area with a beautiful woman. Rachael commented on it, “I don’t know how he does it. He always get to play with the pretty ones.” I expressed my surprise too. I had seen him many times too.

She commented that in one of our pictures on a Lifestyle web site Don noticed a empty gun magazine pouch on my belt. He is a firearms instructor for a police agency and it sort of jumped out at him. I told her I do a lot of shooting and used to be a, non-professional, instructor myself. She wanted to introduce me to her husband and so we walked over to the table with some other people including the owners I recognized. I was introduced and we Don and I immediately started talking about gun and shooting.

Rachael quickly tuned out and was talking to a woman from another couple at the table. They were talking about the first few times they had played together and how much they enjoyed their time together. I disengaged from the gun talk and told Rachael I was sorry to have gotten distracted by the gun stuff. “This is a sex club. We should be talking about sex here”, I told her. I contributed some to the talk about the club, what happened to Club Pyrite, and asked her about their lifestyle experiences.

They had been in the lifestyle for about ten years but had just played with other people in their neighborhood. There had been a group of a half dozen couples or so and everything had been great for several years. Then there was a bunch of drama and everyone except them got divorced. They then decided to go to house parties and clubs to meet people. They had been doing this for several months now and it was working out well for them.

I told her about Jo and my experience some. I told her of our experiences at other clubs and they dynamics of house parties versus the different clubs.

We probably talked for 20 or 30 minutes and noticed that nearly everyone else in the social area except for our table was gone. She commented something about everyone must be having a good time and so I put my hand on her leg and asked if she would like to go play with me.  She said, “Yes, but I need to see what Don wants to do.” I told her I had to get something out of my locker anyway and would be right back. I went to my locker and retrieved my condoms and when I stood up she was right behind me. She asked, “Is it okay to go someplace where he isn’t?” I wasn’t quite sure who he was but I said we could go anywhere she wanted. It turned out he was some guy that was sort of lurking around watching people in the play areas. We found an empty play area where we could be alone and she quickly go into things. I don’t believe I have ever been with a woman who “got started” so quickly before. I was a little taken aback but had a very nice time with her.

After we were done and chatted for while we dressed and went back into the social area. Don was busy making out with the woman from the other couple. Rachael and I sat at the original table and chatted with the owners and the husband of the other couple. Eventually Rachael and the husband wandered off to have a more private conversation and I talked with the people at the table. The conversation drifted to spankings, handcuffs, and cages. That’s not my scene at all and it was going to spoil what had been a very pleasant evening for me. I said goodbye to the people at the table, found Rachael and said thank you for the nice evening and left to go home.

In the car I sent another text message to Jo and gave her Rachael and Don’s Facebook name:

Just leaving. I had a good time with Rachael .

10 minutes later:

She’s attractive! Glad you had a good time.

I went home and went to bed alone. I would have rather Jo had been home and I had spent the evening with her but being able to socialize and play with someone else was a nice distraction from being alone.