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Last night we went to our usual club. From the RSVP list there didn\u2019t look to be anyone we were going to be playing with but we decided to go anyway. Tom and Mary<\/a> were there and we figured we might talk to them but probably not much of interest would happen.<\/p>\n

We put our stuff in a locker and looked around. The were quite a few new people but no one interesting. We finally settled in the lounge area next to the appetizers. There were some people talking but all the seats near them were taken so we arranged a couple comfortable chairs on the periphery and sort of listened in and chatted between just ourselves. We observed the new couples going through the first part of the orientation but didn\u2019t see anyone of particular interest. There were quite a few of them but none of the men were tall enough to be interesting to Jo or they weren\u2019t in our age bracket.<\/p>\n

After a while Uriah showed up, gave us both hugs and sat down beside us.  We chatted about her boyfriend who still<\/em>  who hasn\u2019t said he loves her. We talked about marriage some. She doesn\u2019t envision ever getting married again but could see him being a lifelong companion. She asked if we planned to get married. We said we hadn\u2019t really talked about it much. Certainly not in the next few years because getting financial aid for Jo\u2019s college age children is easier as a single mother. Jo left as Uriah and I were talking about something of little interest to her. I was a bit concerned because has had a bit of a cough I was wondering if she was feeling so ill that maybe we should go home. So I went looking for her.<\/p>\n

Jo was fine, she just went to check her phone for messages from the kids and go to the bathroom. We scouted for other couples in the lobby and saw a particularly attractive woman and a good looking guy come through. Okay. There\u2019s our \u201cprey\u201d. We need to sit at their table for dinner we decided. I put our names on the little cards used to reserve seats at the tables and waited for them to select their chairs. Jo predicted that we would have to move fast because others are probably going to have the same idea as we did. I\u2019m not certain that is what happened but there was another couple that selected the same table as Louis and Roberta and we hurried to place our cards in the two remaining positions at that table.<\/p>\n

We struck up a conversation with them and it went well. We talked about kids, where we lived, travel time to the club, and about the personal dynamics of this club with all its floor space compared to house parties. Dinner was served and we went through the buffet and came back to the table. The third couple was there and almost immediately the conversation between Jo, I, and this third couple dominated. Louis and Roberta were kind of left out. We didn\u2019t mean for that to happen but the other woman in particular is one of those \u201clife of the party\u201d types. We talked about the TV series Fire Fly<\/em> and how it could be used to find out if another couple was compatible or not. If someone didn\u2019t like Fire Fly<\/em>  then you could scratch them off of your list. Jo and I really liked Fire Fly<\/em>  but I\u2019m not certain that would be compelling evidence to have nothing to do with potential playmates.<\/p>\n

She told us about being polyamorous and with her current partner, there at the table with us, initially just started out as a sexual relationship. And after she discovered she was in love with him she waited four months to tell him because it wasn\u2019t how the relationship had started and what they said they wanted. It turned out he felt the same way about her and it was all good. Jo chipped in that she understood the concept of polyamory and it made a certain amount of sense but it just wouldn\u2019t work for her in practice. She just wouldn\u2019t be able to handle it. I probably could handle it a little better than Jo but still I much prefer the swinging lifestyle to the polyamorous unless maybe we all lived in the same home. I could see that having the potential to work out. Perhaps something like the Line Marriage described in Robert Heinlein\u2019s The Moon is a Harsh Mistress<\/em> as being one of the more functional structures (see also Influence of the Science Fiction Writings of Robert A. Heinlein on Polyamory<\/a>).<\/p>\n

We didn\u2019t get the names of the third couple and weren\u2019t really interested in them as playmates. They were much younger than us and with all of her piercings, the red and black hair, and the bright red lipstick I just didn\u2019t find her of sexual interest. <\/p>\n

Louis and Roberta left the table when the entertainment started so they could get a better view. It was a demonstration of fire play. There was a man and a woman on the dance floor with a portable massage table. The woman was nude and the man used isopropyl alcohol to briefly set fire to parts of her body or used a burning glove to stroke her. It sort of bothered Jo and me and we didn\u2019t watch much of it. We did wander off to find Tom and Mary and talk to them some.  They had eaten dinner with Sean and Martha<\/a> and the two couple seemed to be connecting well. We wondered how that would work out. Maybe they would be interested in a doing a soft swap or something. Martha gave me a hug when we arrived and the others were friendly as well. We watched the fire play some but mostly talked.<\/p>\n

Tom and Mary told us how, \u201cIt always ends this way\u2026\u201d They have had several different girl friends over the years. They play with another woman as a couple for quite some time then she will find some guy that she really likes and wants to bring him into the relationship with Tom and Mary. That just doesn\u2019t work for Tom and apparently not all that well for Mary. Tom explained it as follows, \u201cSo I have my wife and our girlfriend and everything is going well and this guy wants to join us. So he gets the whole prize of two different women and what is it I get out of this?\u201d<\/p>\n

Jo and I wandered off when the fire play demonstration was over and looked around to see what else was available. We saw Robert and Lindsey talking to another couple and they appeared to be quite \u201ctight\u201d but not really anything else of interest. Another couple that we had played with a couple times, Mark and Wendy, had eaten dinner at a table some distance from us. Wendy had always shown a lot of interest in me and I liked being with her but the chemistry between Mark and Jo wasn\u2019t all the hot and Jo wasn\u2019t interested in pursing that possibility. Wendy did approach me and said she hadn\u2019t gotten her hug from me yet and I gave her a big hug and kiss. We chatted for just a few seconds before she moved on to the bar area.<\/p>\n

Jo and I decided to just go into the play area by ourselves. Because it was pretty early there were hardly any other people around. We went to the mirror room and laid down and talked about the dynamics of the club. After 10 or 15 minutes we started getting sexually aroused. Another couple came into the room and laid on an isolated bed fairly close to us. We probably would have been interested in them even if they had shown an interest in us. We all end up having sex at essentially the same time. It was nice to hear the sounds and see another couple having sex close to us even if we didn\u2019t directly participate with them.<\/p>\n

The other couple left before we did and we were alone in the room for a while longer and I nearly fell asleep. Jo asked if I was ready to leave and I agreed. There just wasn\u2019t much going on for us. This was pretty much as expected. <\/p>\n

We made our little survey of the play area before leaving. We found Louis and Roberta together in a small bed isolated from others. Apparently they weren\u2019t interested in us or they could have joined us in the mirror room.<\/p>\n

As we were leaving Wendy again approached and expressed some disappointment we were leaving they were staying the night. And then Uriah also came up to me and seemed to be expressing disappointment we were leaving.<\/p>\n

We left and as we drove home we talked about the evening. \u201cI feel like a leper\u201d she said. At the house party we go to she gets lots and lots of attention from attractive men and we have had 75% success in finding playmates when we have attended. At this club there isn\u2019t that many guys she is interested in and many of those that are interesting aren\u2019t into full swap. There were women, this time, that were interested in me but Jo just wasn\u2019t \u201cfeeling the love\u201d and that just isn\u2019t going to work for us.<\/p>\n

Jo did sort of a mock survey of herself:<\/p>\n