I found a blog post with someone asking for MFM threesome advice. I left the following comment and thought it might be useful for my readers here:
I couldn’t tell you how many times I’ve had MFM threesomes with various women. Probably a third of them were with my (now ex-) wife and the rest were at sex parties with other women. They were all great fun.
My advice to anyone trying a threesome for the first time is for the minority gender, the woman in this case, to not worry about satisfying both of their other playmates. This is a time for them to lay back and enjoy the attention. If you worry about making two people happy you are taking on double the “work” load and you will stress about that too much.
If they are like me they will have a great time without getting quite as much attention from you as they usually would.
New research suggests that not all casual sex is bad. For those legitimately interested, it can boost life satisfaction and self-esteem and lessen anxiety.
By the end of the study, 42 percent of subjects reported having sex outside a relationship. When it came to those who were sociosexually unrestricted, having casual sex was associated with higher self-esteem and life satisfaction and lower depression and anxiety. “Typically, sociosexually unrestricted individuals (i.e., those highly oriented toward casual sex) reported lower distress and higher thriving following casual sex, suggesting that high sociosexuality may both buffer against any potentially harmful consequences of casual sex and allow access to its potential benefits,” the researchers write. Additionally, feelings of authenticity “amplified” the beneficial psychological effects, but did not spur them, as hypothesized. Surprisingly, the researchers did not find any negative effects on well-being in those who were sociosexually restricted but had casual sex anyway.
I know that if I am monogamous for a year or more then I get into a bad state of mind. It’s difficult to think about anything but having sex with someone new. I also get irritable and depressed.
I feel really good after Jo and I have a nice sexual experience with others. As Jo said after one particularly enjoyable evening, “That was fun!”