Dr. Justin Lehmiller gave his blog post the title Some People’s Brains May Be “Wired” To Seek More Sex. He says:

What these results tell us is that people’s brains seem to respond to sexual imagery in very different ways. For some people (i.e., those with more partners), the brain appears to be highly sensitive to all sexual cues, whether they are mild or intense. However, for others (i.e., those with fewer partners), the threshold for sexual arousal is set much higher, meaning that it takes a strong cue to elicit a strong response. Because these differences in brain sensitivity were related to previous number of sex partners, these findings raise the provocative possibility that the way our brains are “wired” to respond to sexual cues could potentially be a key factor in explaining why some people pursue more sexual partners than others.

But I am siding with the skeptics in the comments. Especially SandraL who said:

The conclusions being drawn here seem to be making unproven assumptions about correlation and causality. Are people more likely to seek out sexual experiences because they’re more stimulated by explicit sexuality, or are people more stimulated by explicit sexual images because their brains have been primed by frequent sexual experiences in the past year?

I know there has been a fair amount of desensitization to my sexual interest over the years. I have seen and participated in so many group sex situations that it seems pretty ordinary and natural to me. This was certainly not the case when I was in my late teens.

I think more research on this topic is needed.

I found the article Why So Many People Care So Much About Others’ Sex Lives interesting. It referenced this study which concluded:

At the individual level, perceived female economic dependence explained significant variance in anti-promiscuity morality, even after controlling for variance explained by age, sex, religiosity, political conservatism, and the anti-promiscuity views of geographical neighbors. At the state level, median female income was strongly negatively related to anti-promiscuity morality and this relationship was fully mediated by perceived female economic dependence. These results were consistent with the view that anti-promiscuity beliefs may function to promote paternity certainty in circumstances where male parental investment is particularly important.

That would imply that people would be more likely to participate in the lifestyle when women are more likely to have their own jobs and able to support themselves. It is certainly true that nearly all of the women I know in the lifestyle have their own jobs. But I don’t know that much about women who are not in the lifestyle. It could be that most of the women I happen to know are capable of being independent.

This is a pretty decent video about sex myths. It has nothing to do with the lifestyle though.

There is a lot of truth in this video:

I found it here after a lifestyle acquaintance posted a link on Facebook.

I’ve been going to sex clubs for decades now and the majority of my close friends are “in the lifestyle”. This means it’s easy to forget that some people can get all bent out of shape about people like me:

Calling a proposed swingers sex club “evil” and a would-be “cancer” on Madison, the leader of a Christian school put voice to local concerns during a meeting Monday that aired opposition.

“We will exhaust every legal, every political, every kind of resource we can find to stop it,” vowed Ricky Perry, president of Goodpasture Christian School, about a half-mile from the proposed club.

I’ve never had open personal contact with people like this, but then I keep a pretty low profile when I’m in the vanilla world. I’ve told a few people who I thought might be interested in the lifestyle some of the things available and things always went fine even when they weren’t interested in participating themselves.

But news like this is a solemn reminder that we need to be careful. In an Internet enabled world once we have been exposed there is no going back.

FleshLight is a sex toy for men. It was based upon a mold made from a real woman.

Here is surprisingly interesting video of that woman visiting the FleshLight factory:

H/T to Carlin Ross.

This is amazing (picture is NSFW):

One man who has two fully-functional penises goes by DiphallicDude (or DoubleDickDude, which morphed into DDD), as he is committed to keeping his real identity private. He is an American man in his mid-20s, living out on the East Coast. Beyond that, not much is known about who he really is.

About a year ago, he did an AMA on Reddit, that turned out to be one of the most popular of all time. He even submitted pictures as proof (obviously NSFW), if you’d like to see what diphallia actually looks like. When he said “Ask Me Anything,” Redditors did not hold back, dying to know what it is like living with that condition. It was revealed that DiphallicDude is bisexual, and has had sex with over 1000 people. While he didn’t go into too explicit of detail about his sexual experiences, he was able to confirm or deny most of the questions he was asked about the mechanics of everything.

His book is Double Header: My Life with Two Penises.

Over 1000 people and he is in his mid-20s? Hmmm… suppose he became sexually active at age 16 and is now 26, that is about 520 weeks. So he has had, on the average, about two new partners per week. That seems a little far-fetched.

Via Justin J Lehmiller we have this chart on the frequency of intercourse in married couples:

Jo and I are in our 50’s and sometimes have sex as often as four times in one day! Yet having sex four or more times in one week would put us in the top 1.1%.

We were shocked. Jo said, “What are these people doing?!” My response was, “I don’t know. But we know what they aren’t doing.”